Every time I take my son bike riding I walk away vowing to never do it again. Inevitably every attempt to teach him how to ride ends up in a frustrated ball of tears (and by this I mean mostly me). So I was really surprised this morning when he came to me, of all people, to take his training wheels off and teach him to ride like a "big boy." Believe me, I really tried my hardest, I attempted to detach from the outcome. I encouraged him when he nailed it, fell down, and even g

A common question that comes up during the closing circle at many of workshops is "how do I get my partner to change?" After weeks or months of transformative work participants are often fearful that when they return home all the lessons and growth will be for naught. Allow me to offer that this is a perfectly normal fear, and that although in some cases the relationship waiting for you at home may be beyond repair, in the majority of cases your commitment to continual grow

Hey Babe, You know what I love about working with the body? There's no place to hide. Everything about us is laid bare each time we return to the mat. Perhaps this is why so many of us hide our bodies in shame, we are afraid of what people might see. Or worse, what we might see in ourselves. It is for this same reason that we delay our path toward self-transformation. Instead we flatter ourselves into believing, "I'm okay." "I don't need help." "My needs are not really th

Hey Babe, I wrote this piece, I am not okay, at a pivotal crossroads in my life. These four little words have helped me breakthrough mental, emotional and spiritual blocks in a way I never perceived possible. Say it with me. I am not okay... See that vomit taste you just got in your mouth? See that innate desire to run and hide or send me a long hate-email demanding that I get out of your head and heart! Yep. I know that feeling. In fact, that feeling and I have been in an in

Hey Transformers, I grew up in the black, baptist church. Along with the familiar smell of wafting perfume seeping out from under the brim of large, bedazzled hats and the sound of Worther's Originals wrappers being loudly crinkled by aging hands, I will always have a strong and lasting connection to the music of my ancestors. One song in particular stands out in my mind. A song that for me, captures the fourth step on our transformation journey perfectly: I surrender all. I

Hey Transformers, Remember that retreat you went on? Maybe it was one of mine? The one where you found yourself and aligned your chakras. You ate only organic food and shouted, "I love everyone," as you fell into the arms of your trust-fall partner. Do you remember how you promised to apply every aspect of that work to your day-to-day living...? What happenned? Life happened, Amigo. But that doesn't mean everything you learned about yourself and the nature of the world was a